Way too often we conflate forgiveness and reconciliation. They are not the same thing. Forgiveness is not seeking out the offender to injure them, forgiveness is moving on with your life, forgiveness is not shaming or gossiping about the offender. Forgiveness is not resuming the relationship, or allowing yourself to be hurt again, or having to live in fear because your boundaries are constantly crossed in the name of forgiveness. Forgiveness and boundaries allow you to love from the right distance.