There are obviously situations in which this would not apply such as when dealing with mental illness, adultery, or abuse. With that said, I can’t tell you how many young couples I’ve talked to in which one of them will try to stay neutral, while the other attempts to work through a conflict with their new in-laws. You are a team. If your family has an issue with your spouse, they have an issue with both of you. Never leave your spouse to work things out because you are intimidated by your own family. Conflict between human beings is natural and can be expected, but you two must deal with it side by side.